I DO

Some time back when I read in a magazine an actress quoting her grand mother saying “The success of a Marriage is not about finding the right mate, but being the right mate”, I was not convinced and I thought there was not much to that statement. 

 

 We were made to believe that men are from Mars and women are from Venus and finding Mr.Right / Ms.Right is crucial for a marriage. When things go wrong we always ended up by blaming our spouses. In the context of marriage we assumed that the other person is calling the shots.

 I happened to connect to Sri Raj Bhowmik, Our Founder through the life transformation program very recently. Life changed for me and I started looking at life from a very different dimension where the focus is on progress and growth.  Now when I think of the above statement in this new light , It is a revelation! The progressive thought aligned with Our Founder’s guidelines of ‘Being’. 

 We can actually impact our marriage by “Being” and actively contribute to make the journey of living beautiful .  With the new understanding from the CORPORitual teachings of Living Life from a Balance point, I started observing Marriage.

 Usually we find our right mate either by falling in love or getting it arranged, we court and go through the made for each other phase and take the big step of marriage.

Then we plan the wedding celebration and honeymoon in detail the style, the food, the flowers, … places and so on considering and compromising on both individual tastes to make it a joyful occasion. We say I do trust that the other person is our soul mate, who is going to be there with us for better or worse until death. After the celebration, we start living together in a house/apartment with the hope of living happily ever after. These are heaps and piles of pictures that we have created in the world as we understood life.

 “Remember we were so good during our courting days, we waited patiently for hours, we always cared about each other likes and dislikes, enjoyed each others success, happy just being together, cherished qualities which were very different from our own. At that point of time we loved and gave ourselves 100% to the other, connected at various levels , made a difference  & created a magic moment of our lives.”

 What we actually meant when we said I DO was- We take the responsibility of celebrating the marriage every single day, creating more & more magic moments.
I DO also meant - Doing our part of responding to the situations positively, growing together and manifesting the goals set by the environment . Eg, Health, Wealth, Prosperity, Abundance of love, Beautiful & happy Children, Career growth, Travel etc.

 I DO also meant - being a part of the unit but growing and nurturing ourselves in the personal space by connecting to the environment. Adding value to the environment by giving and receiving support mutually in our own ways & connecting and bonding through a common activity or space. 

 I DO also meant focusing on the goals & making a conscious effort of resolving issues by reworking on the logistics, sharing work, planning finances, dealing with interferences from other environments.

 I DO also meant respecting the diversity of culture, religion, backgrounds, values, thoughts, and making diversity useful in enhancing our quality of lives. Most importantly accepting the environment as it is in the here and now by consciously resisting the urge to change the environment which is our most primal response. By actively accepting the environment, we can create growing responses rather than blame, sulk or be angry. 

 In essence, I DO meant – We exist & co-exist in the marriage and we are an important part in the marriage. We belong to the environment by taking responsibility of looking inside  our selves whenever conflict arises.We give fully for the betterment of ourselves,marriage and the world with the understanding of the concept of universal connection.

 In the domain of our marriage, when we deeply understand and value the meaning of our I DO statement,  when we are compassionate, forgiving, respecting and honoring our physical love we give ourselves and our environment a better chance to grow, thrive, sustain &celebrate the union of body, mind & soul contributing in meaningful procreation to create a better world.

 From the bottom of my heart I would like to express my gratitude to Our Founder Sri. Raj Bhowmik  for His vision of creating a better world. 

 Thank you Sri Raj Bhowmik, for being a part my life with Your teachings and guiding me to add value to myself and the world.