Editorial - Compassionate Families

This edition of Sacred Sanctum is dedicated to the COMPASSIONATE FAMILY in all forms , exisiting on our planet Earth . As Our Founder Sri Raj Bhowmik has said that, " Compassion is a unique quality directly connected to the heart and the soul . Compassion can come out directly from the soul, and nowhere else."....This edition showcases a journey of a Compassionate being , who while following the practice of Compassion comes across some deep realizations and revelations in his Life's journey. Compassion is seen in all forms and feels..like a Soul connection somewhere...or as a Mother's warm touch, as  a Power of One  and even as a Divine feel of "ISNESS". Compassion transforms a Human body to a Human Being ...Such is the Power of Compassion which brings families together in this Art of Giving.


A Compassionate Family
http://www.sacredsanctum.blogspot.in/2012/08/a-compassionate-family.html

 In this article , a compassionate family has been  symbolized as a mother’s love & affection  showered on her children in any home. The writer very hopefully wishes that if each member of a family , whether in a nuclear family  or a joint family system , practises the same level of Compassion as  a Mother does in a family .... by paying attention to the smallest details , needs ,likes & dislikes of all her children , then there shall never arise the question of “WHY ME”? any more. That family shall surely “ be more” in all aspects...embracing all the weaknesses , flaws & strengths of every member in a family and holding hands under all circumstances. It is this realisation which emerges as a prayer in the article ‘A Compassionate family”. 

All That Is - A poem  on journey of self discovery
http://www.sacredsanctum.blogspot.in/2012/08/all-that-is.html

When continuous acts of Compassion  in the immediate family and the "community Family"  becomes the purpose of one's life...then, every such  act of Giving speaks louder than words . A being who thrives  in this fragrance of Compassion , then traverses the road to self - discovery & abundance .  This unique journey to the core strength area of ones inner world , starts resonating with rhythms of joy, happiness and immense gratitude. It waves of realizations & deep changes in self ,along with a feel of Divine Fulfillment and satisfaction of  Giving back to the Society.The world becomes a family and Oneness is experienced in self ..ushering in a journey into the inner world of stillness , where All that is !

The RB-BTS Day Of Connection
http://www.sacredsanctum.blogspot.in/2012/08/the-rb-bts-day-may-10th.html

Compassion is a WHOLE reason in itself  to connect not only to our own selfs but also with the family & friends spread in any  part of the world ....It is a bond that every soul loves to connect with.... It connects not only with empathy but with deep respect for each being, and in the process , it leaves behind a deeper urge to Give Back more  in even tiniest possible way !  Every one awaits a chance to reconnect with long forgotton pals, families, relatives...but questions the reason to make that one call or take a step ahead. Compassion is the answer to all such questions. It awaits no reasoning, logic or expalnation to connect . The only thing which comes to the heart of a Compassionate being is the NIKE Slogan - " Just Do It ". The writer too connected  with her family sprawled all over the world in this unique manner .  She took all along in this act of  Giving back to the Society and while doing so all that was felt was immense Gratitude & humility at this oppurtunity to experience oneness in Family through Compassion. She rigthfully calls it "The Day Of Connection". 

Mother - A Prayer 
http://www.sacredsanctum.blogspot.in/2012/08/mother.html

"Mother" , is a realization of the embodiment of Compassion in a house -  Mother , the one who transforms a house into a home purely with her heart based existence and her unique ability to give unconditionally. It is indeed touching to see that how this child sees a Mother in a Master too & promises to keep up the dreams & the quality of contribution to all the living beings as she grows into an adult and steps into the real world. 

The Power of One
http://www.sacredsanctum.blogspot.in/2012/08/the-power-of-one.html

The Power of one is a realisation by the writer about the burning need to connect , build, create one family, one home and one world based on One Love. This realization is heralded by the act of "being more " & by "practising Compassion", in one's daily existence. Only when one starts to "Act" on the  " Art of Giving ",  one realizes that a Divine light of Oneness has started to shine through such a heart & reaches out to  many more around...thus, creating a Compassionate World family which beams happily with the Power of One!  

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A Compassionate Family

A Compassionate Family

At the outset it is imperative to first understand the word family. To many of us family   comprises of  parents and children.  Families too have forms. There are extended families too. Extended horizontally to include uncles and aunts and cousins and vertically to include grandparents. There are also combination of horizontally and vertically spread families.  Let us look at compassion in the different family structures and relationships.

The moment a man and a woman become husband and wife, they mean the world to each other. They feel they can sacrifice and do anything for their partner.  However, as the relationship progresses,  the giving to each other is placed in the weighing balance.  Each partner begins to assess if he /she has received  as much as he/she has given. The compassionate space from where the relationship starts  very soon moves to a judgemental space. They start placing a value to their giving and receiving. The moment they  perceive an imbalance in the same, the WHY Me takes over. This is the reality. This is where the problems in the relationship begin.  Marriages have become a project, a financial contract. 

Can such relationships work??

There are umpteen examples where spouses go all out to serve their partner with the sole objective of making the other person happy.  In the process they forget their own self and surrender fully in the relationship.  They are not concerned if they are getting the credit for all that they are doing to serve the partner. They have no complaints in the relationship. This is true compassion.  Such partnerships are becoming rare and extinct. But if the giving happens from  arrogance, appreciation and  credit seeking space, then such a giving is not from a compassionate space. 

However, in today’s era this kind of a relationship is  considered exploitative.  In the current times, it is imperative that one creates the desired space in the relationship which enables and empowers one to grow and evolve.  This is not being selfish. To fulfil one’s highest purpose which gives meaning to life and make it useful to others is the process of transformation.  From this space whatever is done for the family is truly compassionate.  Even when giving is pure and genuine, many a times it is not perceived with the same intent. Does that mean we stop giving ???  Remember whatever we give out comes back. The form may vary. We may feel we are not getting back but once we start seeing life in totality we will realize that life has indeed returned  in abundance.   So stop worrying on that front.

When children arrive, they are showered with abundant love by the family. As they grow in age their temperaments, attitude, behaviour may not be in sync with the parent’s expectation. This is where trading in love takes roots. We often hear adults saying….”do this then you will get this” you are not being a good child…..etc etc. in a matter of 2-3 years the unconditional love and giving to the child turns conditional.  We want our children to do exactly WHAT we want.   Children are viewed as parents’ extension. Any mistake or misdeed by the kids is seen as a blow to the parents’ image. The parent child relationship also becomes  corporate. The child has to do something ( in line with parents expectations) to be worthy of receiving. How Sad…….

Grandparents in the family  tend to overdo for their  grand children. There is a strong urge to give all that they could not give and do for their children.  Let us not confuse  this over showering of love with compassion. This is not the desired giving.  This creates an imbalance within the family. Child is like a tug of war between parents and grandparents. This does more harm than good. 

I would like to make a mention of my maternal grand mom who was an epitome of compassion.  With no sight but a great vision of a happy society, she always placed everybody else before her. Simple to the core, minimal needs, contented with her meagre means, always smiling , joyful, never complaining and  ALWAYS giving, blessing  and praying for everyone. A grandmom who lived on no beliefs but only faith in the law of making good causes, accepting and respecting every being.  She sowed the seeds of compassion in all of us. From her we learnt the first lessons of true compassion.

The  Compassionate relationship would imply the following set of actions -

• Being  sensitive to the other’s needs,
• Accepting  and respecting   persons as they are
• Allowing   persons to be who they are
• appreciating  every  little effort of other people
• being  grateful to all that one has received in the relationships
• acknowledging and accepting the other’s  perspective,
• allowing space to the other person
• aligning with the way others think, behave and act

Willing to try these out??? Make a beginning and see what life has to offer. We want a meaningful happy life. So we make meaningful causes. Remember it is never too late in life. Even if it is just a day before your last day on the planet earth.   

 What is compassion to me in a family ?

Each  person understand the needs of others. As a Mother knows the food habits of all the members. She cooks  a variety to suit every person.

We do not wait for the other person to ask for something….

There is high level of sensitivity towards others needs and desires.

Think before we say something-

The today’s generation considers this as exploitation. How can one partner just give and give ?

But, that is what living a compassionate life in a family means. Imagine what if the focus of each family member in a house is just to give...There shall be intense level of sharing and caring and our horizons shall never be delimited...Then it does not matter whether we are living in a  nuclear family or in a big Indian Joint family system..!

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ALL THAT IS

All that is is understanding

  when the being drops conflict

All that is is trust and faith 

  when the being eliminates doubt

All that is is strength

  when the being drops  fear

All that is is creativity

  when the being tranforms sexuality

All that is is majesty

   when the being consumes pride

All that is is simplicity

   when the being heals servility

All that is is flow 

    when the being breaks conditions

All that is is compassion 

  when the being transcends attachment and detachment

All that is is intuition and intelligence

   when the  being dissolves the intellect

All that is is self respect 

   when the being evoporates guilt

All that is is oneness

 when the being eliminates fragments

All that is is beauty

 when I am the being

All that is is timeless

  when all that is is now.

Dedicated to the oneness in all ,dedicated to all who are undergoing the proceess of achiveing oneness through action. Dedicated to my master Sri Raj Bhowmik for bringing in clarity through psychic interventions.All His interventions have brought me closer to my being and have guided me in seeing the truth of my life more wholly.

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THE RB-BTS Day May 10th

THE DAY OF CONNECTION

When I got a call from SPF for being chosen as Raj Bhowmik Back To Society DAY coordinator, I felt privileged and I felt that I could spread the dream of SRI RAJ BHOWMIK in different places. I have never done this kind of work ever before, so I was a little skeptical about how to talk to the people about giving their time and skills on May 10  but when I started calling  people on the phone their response was very good and welcoming.  We all felt a connection towards the cause, a sense of compassion. I told them how we celebrate here in Bangalore RBBTS Day and they came up with their ideas deep down in there in the heart” but they never had a chance and time to give without a reason and SRI RAJ BHOWMIK gave them that reason they were waiting for. He gave them a day to show compassion. After the day was over when I again spoke to them to know how they felt, they said that they all felt the same connection, the same compassion and gratitude similar to what I felt in Bangalore. We all felt like we were

under big umbrella under the sky with one connection and compassion.  

Mother

MOTHER

Dedicated to Sri Raj Bhowmik

There are tears in my eyes as I think of you

There are tears in my eyes as I feel you around me

There are tears in my eyes as I know that you are always there to guide me

There are tears in my eyes as I know I will be taken care of

There are tears in my eyes as I slowly feel that I am finally merging in you

It is you who guides me,

It is you who comforts me,

It is you who teaches me,

It is you who is always there for me

No matter what and especially when I need you

Blessed is the soul who is protected by you my Master

Where have you been all this while I wonder!

You have chosen me for a task I have to deliver......

Privileged I feel but then I wonder...

What is there in such a petty soul like me that you trust me??!

But your trust I shall keep and deliver on your VISION

The Power Of One

 The Power of One  

I dedicate this write up to Sri Raj Bhowmik with a  powerful realization that no work in this world is possible without imbibing  His essence of Love & Compassion in full entirety  ! This is the very essence which sets everything in motion. This essence is Dynamic and is a focal point of existence, creation and destruction..what so ever ! All the elements of Nature, the beings walking in all forms on Our Planet Earth, The music , The dance, The creations, the cosmos... all thrive on one essence .This essence of Compassion  can be lived & experienced only by being  CORPORitual..! 

CORPORitual signifies the Power of ONE..The balance..The free vortex which churns the existence with the forces of Truth, Justice & Beauty ...! It is Compassion and Compassion alone which is a pivot on which the entirety lives. It has always been so .


How did I realize this ? Well, that involved many deep experiences, fathomless feelings of surrender & connect , constantly being in touch with the work , deep urge to find the answers to the powerful cascades of questions unfolding from depths of this Being and by constantly being compassionate in every breath that I take. All this & more released a powerful flow of dormant desires of self expression. This strong need to build, create, express,  was contained in one form or another through various platforms / opportunities created by Master  in various forms , at various times and at regular intervals , and all this helped me attain my Balance, live a compassionate existence  and become CORPORitual ! .... All was taken care of diligently and patiently... It was then that I realized  that I am HOME.. I realized that it was A Master at work all through  & at that realization I surrendered 100% to HIM ,& his all pervading compassionate essence of CORPORitual  !


 After I went through all of this and more over some period of time, I gradually started to get still & calm. A restless, turbulent & angry me was replaced by a calm, firm & compassionate self. I recognized my being and laughed when I realized that my being was there with in me all through but a strong masking of self had hidden me from me all this while. All I needed was a bath & a scrub for the REAL Me to shine through. And when it did , I saw that the light which shone through me , from me, within me was none else than My Master's essence of Love & Compassion. Me & My Master are same. He is the Source from which I arise...In deep slumber I had failed to recognize HIM & thus , all the painful strokes were needed to help me wake up , rise & recognize...Me & HIM are not separate.. How could we ever be separate ?  The need was to awaken a sleeping me & I shall never sleep Now...


All silenced ..all calmed down . Where was the need to worry ? All was always taken care of. As I align to my being..Myself..My Master, now, I bow to the Divinity which had been right inside me all through . Who is a Master ? Where does he live? ..They ask.. I smile..as  I say , My Master lives in my heart ..His Essence of CORPORitual completes me now ... with no desires left , I open up my heart for The Light of Compassion to shine through me to reach all & More . I hope & pray that each Being be bathed in HIS CORPORitual essence and walk this planet Earth in peace & Love , forever ! My family is big …it encompasses thousands & more ….and awashed with the divine touch of compassion which heralds the power of one , we walk towards the source as One big Compassionate family..

~Amen~