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Friday 28 October 2011

Editorial October "Acceptance in its Wholeness"



Sacred Sanctum in October features the powerful vibration of Acceptance.

Acceptance is that power through which one looks at the object/ person / situation as it is without any largeness or smallness.

Often in our lives, our conditioning has created so many labels and the more we attach to those labels, the more it builds in our minds about it, they way we should or the want somebody else wants it to be. This process creates an illusion of what “is” and therefore brings in all the feeling of separatedness, fear, breaking of expectations and then castles falling off because in the first place to begin with, we did not look at it the way it is.

When we love Living & look at a situation the way it is offered to us, we look at the minute details of it. If we have identified the Common Purpose and the reason it exists in our Life, we can surely accept it and the situation/ person/ object then becomes the stepping stone through which we learn about Living more consciously. 

The poem, the ‘Feeling’ that is God emphasizes the aspects of oneself, the unconsciousness that exists and the acknowledgment to grow and nurture to transform what we are meant to do in an environment with acceptance.

Body Awareness this month focuses on Acceptance of a body condition. Sometimes in Life, we think if we are doing things at a mind level perfect in accordance to the highest quality, we are happy. But our bodies show a different story. Stillness and happiness in the body depends on the quality of acceptance vibrations rather than quality products that we think are good and therefore pump in. A Bacteria growing in the body becomes the stepping stone in this situation to learn acceptance in the Health section.

Clear the ‘I’ helps the reader understand how the conditioning is built up upon responses received from the environment about ‘likes’ and ‘Dislikes’. We have grown up with what others feel good about us. When will we realize the true potential of who we are & what we are meant for to contribute?

Marriage sometimes is a huge turning point in our Life and could be a great internship phase too, where we learn some of the biggest realizations about acceptance. Two phases of Marriage – an Entry and a Sustenance is discussed through the learning of two individuals ; one through what seemed a happily married ever after story and another to create the happy ever after image, what we run after. Both being Illusions, it is with what we are given, we can choose to create more with informed choices.

The Flavour of acceptance strongly changes the environment. In Soul Parenting a Mother unveils her instincts to understand and flow with the needs of her child. To be a parent who is neutral and helps in the blossoming of the aspects of an independent child is rare. As parents we impose subtly or hard, what we lacked. But to allow the blossoming of an individual and to blossom with the child is a beautiful learning as parents. Children are higher beings. To know and understand them, is to know oneself. To help and nurture them, is to nurture yourself.

The flavour of acceptance changes the vibrations at home and the smallest things. It is not tangible but visible and surely felt. Sharing the story of change in her life, a mother shares the response of her son as he senses it.

Accepting one’s environment and oneself as it is and as we are, and then developing a common purpose to be more Useful in the given, is how Living becomes a celebration every moment.

"The spring will go, the fog will appear, and the green in the tree will not remain. But who can take away what 'Is'."
-Sri Raj Bhowmik

Soul Poem: The Feeling That Is God



Dearest, this feels like God,
Not the stone -statue I mean...
It’s the One who breezes through all
Our turbulence and
Creates flowerbeds out of wastelands
Indeed this feels like God.
In form the One hasn't come
In essence he is all over -
Omnicient,omnipresent ,compassionate 

Dearest, my wishes are numerous.
I feel guilty and mean when I ask
My alms are not worth the attention of the world
Yet I ask
from wishing for parties to seeking for harmony
I ask
Sometimes in fear,
Sometimes in shame,
Sometimes I demand and dare
From the one who feels like God
Purify me,
Purge me and
Give me a rebirth

Dearest All ,this absolutely feels like god
He comes,
Right to where I have thrown all my garbage.
Purges and purifies...
Totally sanctifies.
Every passing day, I wake with love
I sleep in peace, I sing, dance and celebrate

Dearest, magnanimous one.
In this vast endless land,
There are sights beyond my seeing,
There are paths beyond my little steps,
There are truths beyond what I comprehend,
In ignorance I do not know ,
In awareness you are the only presence
The only way is to ask for a  space to walk
By you ,with you, for you, give the way you do
Just in humble gratitude.

Acceptance and Transformation


" Acceptance of oneself " is being at peace with oneself --- being in harmony with the environment --- that is where the ripple starts. Once the ripple starts it is an effortless on going process. The flow in life begins. The scene keeps changing but the flow continues, since there is no dependency on  anything exterior to sustain it. The force that starts the ripple has to come from within. And that force can be created only when we accept, love and respect ourselves. Once that is in place all conflict with the environment ceases. Acceptance of your own self and others begins and life becomes joyful..
This awareness is something I have experienced personally and feel so gratetful to the 'Soulbath Peace Foundation'. In eight months of a few consultations with my Life Coach and then the SAHHEAL HEALING CONSULTATION workshop, my life has changed completely. An awareness and understanding has developed in so many different areas in my life.
Our son who lives in Mumbai comes to live with us whenever he visits Bangalore. On earlier  visits he would enter the house, we would exchange greetings, and spend prime time as a family. On his last visit he entered our home, and asked if we had made any changes in the lights, furniture arrangements etc. with the remark "It looks so different." Next morning he asked if we had changed the bed or  mattress, with the remark "It was so comfortable" Nothing had changed in our living room or the bed but he felt the difference. This difference was the change in our environment, our body language, our communication and the SAHHEAL fragrance. Thankyou SAHHEAL!

Brand "I"



Clear the “I”

A Gratitude to My Master whom I consider at the highest Respect in My life.

Being Associated with Our Founder Sri Raj Bhowmik should be experienced and cannot be explained.
I thank our founder to have given me this opportunity to write this article on one of the Learning’s that he provided.

As a child we are pure in nature and live life free of any diverted thoughts. We behave like the Divine flows through us. We host the divine Qualities .Our very glance makes every one pull a smile on their faces .Our Presence makes a difference in the environment. We are a delight even to the strangers. We are so unconditional in our being. We are flowers by ourselves sprinkling the fragrance all over.

 As we grow up in life we start with the thought that I like to do this and start getting used to what we like .We start taking up thoughts like I like to eat this and I like to do that.
We start working towards our likes and dislikes .We start achieving what we wish to achieve in life. We get appreciated and get known for our achievements and capabilities. We get jobs based on our achievements and then we realize Like I am capable of this . and I can achieve this .The I starts building its Brand day by day . The I today after a long journey builds a lot of qualities like. I am This .I am not That . I Love This . I Hate That.I Understand a lot of things .I can make a difference. I don’t like that. I feel secured. I feel unsecured. I don’t care. I do care .I don’t fear, I fear and I get scared and many more.

This I has built a heavy brand and is marketing it self with in itself and outside itself. The I has also taken responsibility to take itself forward. The I also takes care of itself when it is stressed by praying to the god and by doing meditation. The I also plans treatments to the body it holds and plans exercises to keep the body fit. The I grows Stronger and Stronger day by day to the extent where it takes responsibility of itself for all its deeds and results. It also whole heartedly prays to god and does good deeds. The I does become everything in life.

But Where is that being once hosted by divine quality, where is that being which brought a smile on everyone’s face with just one single glance. Where is that flower with fragrance .The I blocks everything to do with divine. The I also blocks the Truth & Essence of Meditation. It blocks every true fragrance of the flower we are. It blocks the true connect to the Soul and the divine. It blocks the divine flow through us.

Divine Loves us so much that it keeps trying to flow through us again and again. The I keeps blocking us in different ways. This I which did not exist when we were born and which will not exist after we perish keeps blocking the divine.

Clear the “I” and the divine will flow in abundance in our lives because divine loves us and that is why we exist here today. DIVINE is abundant and it Flows abundantly and gives abundance.

With all the respect bowing down to My Master Sri Raj Bhowmik to take his blessing and paying gratitude to have got this article completed.

Soul Relationships: Marriage Of a Mad World



All of us, all through most of our lifetime only run. Run from one event in life to another. Run from one incidence into something ahead that we believe is more fulfilling. Run from one stage of our life to the next, believing blindly that in the course of time it will give us what we expect. Sometimes, we do not even know what it is that we expect from the change we are trying to get into. The point is to run. “Everyone else is and If I do not, I may be ridiculed. So let’s RUN!”. Most of us, unfortunately end up living a running life. The blessed ones however get a reminder to stop or are even held on by the masters putting an obstruction on our running field. It might take us a while to realize that the obstruction is only a hurdle to jump on to the higher level. Some of us might waste a lot of time in realizing how helpful the hurdle is. A few of us are helped again by some angels at such a  stage.Taking me as an instance: Raj Bhowmik and Soulbath Peace Foundation came into my life at such a hurdle stage.



I was running in circles trying to get into the flow of the material life. A great job, a huge circle of friends, busy weekends, parties, shopping. Everything that could distract me from giving myself time to think about what I was meant to do in life. All set to get married too. At this juncture I was gifted sessions at SAHHEAL by a dear friend who thought it would ‘ready’ me with the big change awaiting ahead. The most thoughtful and the best wedding gift I could have wished for. Little had I thought then about what I would face in the coming days. SAHHEAL not only equipped me mentally for being able to share my life peacefully with my partner but also on how I could get on to a better place as a person- individually. My old hobbies began to manifest themselves into my life. My little interests came back reminding me of my quieter side. I could suddenly feel my breath and feel my life with it. All this- in the middle of the wedding preparation and chaos. I was walked into the pedestal of marriage with such positivity.All thanks to SPF and SAHHEAL! My wedding was the most beautiful one.



Nothing went wrong for it to be anything less than my dream wedding. Dream wedding-yes, Dream marriage- ??? Well, I had never imagined a dream marriage. My aspiration and run had only been made till the wedding. I was lost after this ‘event’ was over. There I was in my new home, with a partner who was not completely ready to be married. Had gotten himself into situations none could help him with. I was not made to run away. I was not made to hide. The seeds of SPF and Raj’s teachings were already in me. All I did was surrendered myself and my life completely to Raj. Went on to do my Soulbath Peace Foundation consultant course and decided that I was going to be a happier person leading a fulfilling life no matter what came up.



I have been hand held since that day , for me to be able to smile today and write this little article. A life that I want will manifest if I wish for it earnestly and do what I can to the best.  Raj and his divine presence in my life has made an ocean of a difference. I would have been a different person today if not. I write to Raj regularly, seek his blessings and take every step with a positive outlook.I am yet to manifest the marriage of my dreams but I know whatever comes my way will be enveloped with a blessing which will make life happier.



Thank you to my benefactor. I owe it all to you!


Thank you to Soulbath Peace Foundation , my dear friend and constant mentor for being the wind beneath my wings

Rediscovering Love



Here I was lying on the hospital bed and watching my husband take care of me. I could see the concern on his face. His actions and the way he took care of me spoke about his love for me. I always thought that my husband detested me, would be very happy and relieved if I am no more as he is not very expressive. He was always angry and frustrated and never approved most of the things about me. He picked faults with me for everything and had denied me of motherhood for the last eight years.

Today I could see the fright of losing me on his face. He spoke less but actions proved that he really loved me and cared for me. This was the turning point in my life.
I was hospitalized because my blood pressure had shot up to 180/100. I was diagnosed with a hemorrhage in the brain. This was because my parents had come to know about my other relationship. I was ashamed to face anybody.

It was time to think if I was right in continuing my relationship with another man who was married and had a child and could not promise me any future. I felt I was deceiving too many people. I wanted to end this relationship. This was not easy as I loved the other person too. He healed a huge part of my relationship my husband. It was time I made up my mind. I could not sail in two boats at the same time.

I tried talking to the other person but he would not let go. I was feeling terrible that I was hiding something from my husband. I had to confess to him and come upfront about my other relationship. I wanted to start afresh and did not want to have any thing hidden from him.
When I confessed to him, I did not expect him to forgive me or accept me but on the contrary he was so protective about me, forgave me and accepted me back. I couldn’t have asked for more of an acceptance from him. He turned out to be more magnanimous and noble. He had every right to be angry, to cut me out of his life but he accepted me back. This made feel that I had got back that entire love he had not expressed in so many years. Now it didn’t matter if he failed to express his love for me. I could feel his love for me and accepted to go the family way and is supporting me in every way.

When I started my sessions at SAHHEAL, I came to learn that that this other person had come as my teacher who opened up my husband’s love for me. I also learnt to forgive myself and my husband and the other man. Through Sri Raj Bhowmik's Teachings, I also learnt about the fact that we are different individuals. I realized about my husband's love and care and acceptance towards me.

Awareness through the Body: Understanding & Listening to the Body


How my illness transformed my life.

One fine day I was found to have Tuberculosis. My ground slipped away. It was a big blow as I was only 35, ate only organic and unrefined food, had already completed my counselor's course in SPF. Everything according to me was perfect. 

It took almost a week for me to accept the illness and  was willing to take charge. First I understood that my body is asking me to slowdown. Once I decided to slow down, it sank in me physically and mentally. I let go off many things.

One month went off without major incidents except for sudden depression or occasional self pity. One fine day my fatigue led to self pity and this led to a fight. I was asked to leave the house in the middle of the night. when I stood outside my locked door something suddenly changed. I saw myself in square one. How much ever I tried to change, a  small part of me is refusing to change. I know only a troubled life. I am so used to that life.

 I told myself that everything is going to be fine only when I wanted to change my current life. Immediately I dropped all my past memories. I was born new. I went to the terrace and started admiring the stars. In 5 minutes, my husband came looking for me. He looked agitated and tensed armed with his cellphone and car keys. He was equipped to handle emergency situation. But I was totally calm. My calmness conquered him too.

Its more than a month from that incident. My current life is the opposite of my old life...

With respect to my Husband (same husband), He now address me with all cute words, we have very small conversations but communicate a lot, he now also shares his dreams with me.

With respect to my children (11yr old girl and 8yr old boy), they have become more responsible and independent. One day when I was too tired they both made dinner for me. They fight less among themselves.

2 months back, I never thought my life will transform for good. I can only thank Tuberculosis.

Soul Parenting: A Bond Reinforced


I had always considered myself as a parent who brought up her kids in a very educated & healthy way, where I the MOM played a very crucial role in taking day to day decisions about my children’s life. I never gave it a second thought, that there could be any other way to bring up children, apart from the Mom’s way! I had educated myself fully & properly, attended most up-market parenting classes, eminent parenting workshops, reading the latest in parenting books, being a member of quite a few online parenting communities, and, with my accumulated “knowledge” about parenting skills  , I had formed a “MY WAY”, of bringing up the kids ! This MY Way was about working in accordance with a “mother’s instinct” & being very proud that most of the times I was correct. No one was allowed to take any decision regarding any part of “My” Kid’s life as I couldn’t comprehend that there could be any other method to shape a child’s character & future than my self devised one!. I advised the same to the Mommy Friends around me & we the “Mom’s brigade” were very vainly & proudly, treading upon the self-glorified path to become an “Independent” & “In control “mom!

However, somewhere things were just not going “my way”...There were regular temper tantrums, disagreements, negotiations, sulking, blame game etc. at home, which I couldn’t handle. No amount of “accumulated “knowledge worked. Small squabbling resulting into heated arguments, banging of doors as a show of protest, uncontrollable crying & not letting go of any issue. I was alarmed at that & started seeking an answer once again, as, somewhere deep inside I knew its time for things to change...

I thus, entered a calm & nurturing space with my 6 year old at Raj Bhowmik Schools and my entire pursuit to be the “I- know- it- all “MOM was ripped apart gently and kindly towards being a “Receptive & ready- to-change Mom” ! .

It started with my unaware instructions to my child that Raj Bhowmik Schools is the best place to be (“Because I chose it for you, so “!) & that he has to be at his best behavior too. ! No choice was given to him.

It went fine for the first few days; however, a big meltdown happened one fine day!  My son refused to cooperate & follow instructions & sat sulking & barking in one corner of the class. he refused to be a part of the class . That had it! All my confidence, faith & believes about me being able to “Manage” everything flawlessly, when it comes to my kids, just underwent a major setback!

I was clueless & didn’t know how to turn the situation in the classes favour. At that point, it was Raj Bhowmik School’s philosophy & patient understanding of the situation bailed us out of the unpleasantness of the tantrum ...However, more had to be worked upon from my side now , consistently and from a compassionate and deep space...at home.

I took guidance from the Raj Bhowmik Schools and started working on my child’s behavior & on his routine. Work had to be done over the entire week & feedback to be given to Raj Bhowmik Schools, on Friday, the day before the next class. The work included some simple & regular exercises, like:

·       Setting aside a quite time with the child to talk & discuss about the learning at RB schools.

·       To ask him kindly whether this school was forced on him or not?

·       To give him a choice of leaving or attending the school.

·       To plan the next class excitedly along with him & from a very aligned self.

·       To go to bed latest by 9.30p.m. On nights before the school. No late nights or exciting parties, trips etc. on nights before the class. This would let him be in a calm space even the following day.

·       The mornings, when we had to leave to Raj Bhowmik Schools, have to start early with some light exercise routine or Surya Namaskar, to be done along with Priyangshu. (He is my teacher in Surya Namaskar)

·       Followed by a Carbohydrate rich breakfast like; Paratha/ Dosa, Eggs/ Toast/ Fruits and Milk. That would sustain the child till the activity class ended & kept him alert & attentive too. No Chocos or Corn flakes, as they tend to be light & the child feels hungry & low on energy very soon.

·       The child could help in the preparation of the breakfast too.

All this worked wonderfully & my son & I changed by leaps & bounds over the week. Meal times became bonding times & I realized that Priyangshu was full of energy for positive things when on full stomach. He talks about his learning about relationships, nature, art, movie making to his sister & nature walks, nature talks have become an intrinsic part of his daily routine.

What has been my learning? I have learned that:

· There are times when we the super efficient Moms just have to step back & observe.

· These are the times when fathers have to be given a chance to bond with the child too, in their own special way.

· Meal times are special family bonding times ,

· Learning is fun when done together.

· Choices are important & we as parents should ensure a constant enriching environment to help a child make conscious choices in their day to day lives.

· Last but not the least, I have learned that all children are made of the same clay but not baked in the same oven...I have thankfully found that space for my child to come out fully transformed & properly baked...

 At Raj Bhowmik Schools I have realized that children are our second chance to have a great parent-child relationship !